RELATIONSHIP BEYOND VISION

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While I was growing up, at a particular stage of my life, my mentality was that I can only marry someone that truly loves me. I got to another phase of life and my mentality got elevated. Oh no! I should marry someone that has a vision for himself and also loves me truly. Later did I understand that there is more to choosing a partner. Love is a very important factor of a relationship. Vision is also a factor to consider while choosing a partner. I realized that there is a factor greater than love and visions and that's purpose. Beyond vision, there is a purpose. A man can have a vision and even love you wholeheartedly yet you still can't find fulfilments in him. It means that you can't find your purpose achieved in him. A man can have everything you want and yet something is still missing. Oh! he is intelligent, smart, a lover of God... Yet something is still missing.  If the purpose of your making doesn't align, there will be a problem. 

Before you go into any relationship, look beyond vision. Watch out for purpose. Also, as a woman or a man, find out your purpose before going into a relationship at all.  Find out your why! That would be a guide for you. Don't just jump into it. You were created for a reason. The person you should choose is the person whose reason also correlates with yours. And can support you to be who God wants you to be. Don't rush! Have something doing for your self. Don't be a lady who waits for a man to complete her. You are complete! Start working based on your purpose and the right man will come around. He will meet you in your purpose.  The fact that you got married early doesn't guarantee good marraige. Also, the fact that you got married late doesn't guarantee good marraige. It is better to get married late with the right person than to marry early with the wrong person. Don't rush! 

Some people do say “does that means that I should be saying no to the guys that come around”. As I've said earlier, your purpose is a guide for you. Carry God along in your love life. Be a woman of respect and integrity. Your character has a lot to do in that aspect. As a guy, build yourself. As a lady, build yourself. Don't wait for a brother to come and complete you. 

According to the African culture, they believe that women are to sit at home to take care of the children and also to work in the kitchen. That's not right. A woman is created to be an help meet for a man. To help someone, that means there is something you have that the other other person doesn't. Even if he has it, it is minimal. God designed you in a way that you have the solution to things. You have something in you that can help a man. Why don't you keep improving yourself spiritually, educationally, financially and even mentally. Stand out in those areas. Know what you are doing. Men respect women who know where they are going and they are always striving hard daily. As a man , improve in every areas of your life. Stand out! Know where you are going. A woman so much adores a man that is hardworking and has a vision. Keep building yourself. And remember, don't rush!!! Beyond vision, there is a purpose!!!

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